How Can We Teach Our Children to Find Peace?

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I saw Kung Fu Panda 2 with my family over the weekend.  It was crazy and cute … I loved the emphasis on finding inner peace and its tie-in to self realization.

Jeff and I have pretty much decided that if our children (now in their tweens and early teens) left our home with no other tool than that of accessing their center of peace, we’d have rightly done our job as parents.  Peace is everything they’ll ever search for, want, desire, need…above education, relationships, callings, talents, and any material success.

Even if they don’t know it yet.

And how do we show them this way of life?  We show them by carrying it within ourselves first.  We show them how to receive the Light that heals as it radiates from our own beings.  They are healed by our presence, moved by the strength they see us call forth in times of struggle and unrest.

Peace is only accessed, never self-generated.  As we teach our children how to surrender to a Power greater than their own – a power greater than their parents’ strength – they will begin to understand that it is something they must be in a state of “giving up” to receive.  We must show them that by relinquishing what they want, they can trust that what they need will soon be forthcoming.

Quite the challenge to teach when Mom is trying to master how to access this herself.

One of the things I frequently drill into my oldest son Noah is that his soul will literally die if he takes study of Truth and connection to the heavens out of his daily routine.  Because of the difficult ordeal he passed through last year, he has a degree of knowing that this is the case.  Peace was taken from him, as you can read in this post, and it was actually the greatest gift of his young life.

Although that period of time last year was a living hell, I’m grateful for what it’s taught me, and what it’s taught him.  We HAD to be proactive, had to search, had to reach for the only Light we knew would heal.  It was not casual, but desperate, pleading….what I can only refer to as the “agony of worship.”  What could my son do but surrender as I put him on my bed and took him through visualizations, streamed sacred music, took him to that holy place in his heart to find God by His side?

In his torment and desperation, what could my son do but listen as I tried to explain there was One who descended below all things so that he didn’t have to?

It was only in Noah’s acceptance of this that his deliverance came.  I could not give this to him or do it for him.  It was his choice – his private surrender.    As a post-script to that entry about his treatment plan, his hair has all grown in – thicker and curlier and more handsome than it EVER was, pre-pulling.  I couldn’t be more grateful for his healing, and for the things it has taught our entire family.

So as not to be totally flowery in my explanation, here is what I teach my kids about the way of peace and happiness.  We call it the Top 5 ways to feel lost, miserable and confused (ie the antithesis of peace):

  1. Stop talking to God in your mind during the day and alone in your room at night
  2. Don’t get “still” and visualize what you really want
  3. Quit reading the Word of God
  4. Hang out with negative people
  5. Listen to thoughts, media and music that don’t hold the Light

I know that even if I teach my children this, show them how it’s done, even – by some miracle – master it within myself, they’ll leave home and fall flat on their faces.  Even then, I must trust that their lesson will be perfect, and will ultimately lead them to a more wise and enlightened path.

Until then, I’ve gotta practice what I preach!  And come to that place of trust myself…

What You Long For…


Following is my favorite poem, “The Invitation” by Oriah.  Hadn’t read it in awhile, then picked it back up this afternoon as certain phrases from kept ruminating in my busy head…

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love for your dreams for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon…I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain mine or your own without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.

If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day.And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon,”Yes.”

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.I want to know if you can get up after a night of grief and despair weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.


I’m alone with myself today – have been the past couple days, will be for a couple more.  I stole away to write.  It’s heavenly, and I can honestly say that even though I love people and connection, being alone with me is a constant heart’s longing.  I crave solitude almost more than anything else.  Solitude used to feel like loneliness, until I found what I love to do, and now I simply pine for opportunities to be in the company of my Self.

I love The Invitation because it speaks of the ultimate human desire: to feel free.  Soul-level, each of us wants to live intensely, with much love and much passion…We’re just waiting for someone to give us permission.

The permission must come from within, and above.  Not from this linear plane.  People around us – even those who love us – can’t answer the call of our hearts.  Only we can.

And only by the grace of God above can we even hear it.

No more labels and limits and judgments on the desires of our hearts, on what we really long for.  They just are what they are, and someday – somehow – each and every one of them will find expression.  It’s the way of the Creator we worship to give them a voice.

What we love and long for is directly tied into what we were born to do – how we’re going to help heal the planet – what our gifts are.     “Neglect not the gift that is in thee” (1 Timothy 4:14) might as well be translated, “Don’t put a lid on what you love and don’t stop nurturing your dreams because in those dreams lie the potential to express your highest gifts.”

See, THAT is why we needed a few women to write scriptures back then… 🙂  Lucky for us, we now get to expound on them

We all just want to feel free.  Our creativity and femininity are huge factors in this.  Today, as I sit in this hotel room in total solitude (minus the hundreds of people above and below me), I am reminded of the importance of honoring what lies in the deepest recesses of my heart.  The baby dreams that haven’t yet found their wings.

I’ll just try to be patient…allowing them be what they are…loving them onto a shelf until it’s the right season to take them down and let them fly.  To freedom.

Eve’s Role as Helpmeet

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After God created Adam He declared, “I will make an helpmeet for him…” (Genesis 2:18)   What exactly is a “helpmeet”?

I developed my own offbeat translation of “helpmeet” in my early 20’s as I secretly struggled with the idea that woman might somehow be an “afterthought” or second-seat creation.  Jokingly, I would spout off to a few in my circle of friends, “Look – women were created as helpmeets, because let’s face it, men need help!”

But I’ve since learned that “helper” is not the literal translation!

Joseph Coleson, Professor of Old Testament at Nazarene Theological Seminary – a very respected scholar and archaeologist, says that the Hebrew Translation is: “I will make for him an ‘ezer cenegdo.”

Coleson says English versions consistently translate ‘ezer as “helper.”  ‘Ezer is used 20 times in the Old Testament: seventeen times to describe God and three times to describe a military ally or aide.  Even if we translate ‘ezer to mean helper, we must remember that English has different nuances than the Hebrew language does.  In English “helper” implies someone who is an apprentice, still learning, under someone in authority.  But in Hebrewhelper” implies one who has the power to give help—it refers to someone in a superior position.

There is another possible definition for ‘ezer: “power” or “strength.” “Helper” and “power or strength” are words are from the same Hebrew root and the nouns would be identical.

Cenegdo is two prepositions, and together their literal meaning is “facing.” 1) ce is the first preposition and it means “like” or “corresponding to.” 2) Negdo means to stand in someone’s presence.

Paired with ce it means to be in the presence of an equal. Together these two prepositions show the relationship between two people: it means they are standing or sitting facing each other, which shows they are equals.

Coleson:  “How should we translate the entire expression of ‘ezer cenegdo? A straightforward literal translation is,  I will make for him a power like unto him, facing him.”

I have seen other translations from Greek whose English translations read,  “It is not good that man should be alone.  I will make a companion of strength and power who has a saving power and is equal to him.”

Even though I was trying to be funny in my 20’s, there was an intuitive knowing, through my own observation and experience, that great men relied upon great women.  Enlightened men have a deep dependence on feminine help and strength.

And enlightened women have a deep dependence on masculine help and strength.

As I’ve matured and researched, it makes much more sense to me that “helpmeet” would translate to words such as strength, power, companion, saving, and equal.  They provide clearer and stronger insights into the mortal purpose of the feminine creation.

Eve was ushered in to this Earth realm with power – a unique power which Adam did not possess – to assist in the saving of mankind.  Likewise, Adam possessed strengths Eve did not.  Together, and only as one, could they help set the Earth and Humanity on course to fulfill their respective missions.

Our Children Are Our Teachers

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These are my babies, 7 years ago this month…at the height of their innocent glory.

In honor of Mothers Day and lessons learned from my children continuing to raise me, I have come up with Twelve Reasons to Learn at the Feet of Our Children:

1) Your child (depending on how old you were at his or her birth) has received at least 20 more years of heavenly training than you did. In my youngest’s case, 32. (Isn’t that the equivalent of like 4 PhD’s?)

2) Your child’s spirit is most likely older than yours. We only know who the Firstborn was, and beyond that, heavenly birthorder remains one of His mysteries. Quite possibly, we are raising little Ancient Ones.

3) Your child holds unique gifts that weren’t as “needed” in your time, and maybe didn’t even exist. His or her training was specific to this generation, and to the exponential growth and “speeding up” of the Earth. (Case in point: how long does it take YOU to figure out computer and techno-stuff vs. THEM)?

4) Your child’s spirit realizes there is much to be done in very little time.  Yeah, we had those spiritual/emotional programs running in our childhoods too, but it’s at a different level for them.  The urgent sense of mission inherent in their generation manifests itself as hyperactivity, hypersensitivity, and multi-sensory perception. Not necessarily ideal traits in a kid, but once they grow into themselves (even if it isn’t until the Millennium)…watch out.

5) Your child cannot understand (nor tolerate) hypocrisy. The Sadducees and Pharisees wouldn’t stand a chance – your kid would see through them just as they see through you. (It’s not like they expect perfection in their mother, only that she walks her talk).

6) Your child’s specific core spirit personality has been sent directly to you as a divine tutorial. Whatever you’re weak in, they will magnify it, simply by being who they are. (A beautiful opportunity for you to open the windows of awareness and healing that you’ve closed in the past).

7) Your child cares less about appearances and more about acceptance. (And how contrary is THAT to how the “natural woman” wants to parent?)

8) Your child will almost always look, think, feel and act differently than you expect. If they were the living embodiment of your dream child, how could the divine mandate of opposition in all things be fulfilled to help each of you grow? (Paralleling that, the Spirit almost always prompts us to do something different than we were setting out to do. Parenting this generation, whose personalities are so foreign to our understanding and comprehension, is a bold walk of sheer faith).

9) Your child is a master at living in the Present. (I believe if you live by the Spirit –in the moment– with a child, you will learn to walk the roads of your highest good).

10) Your child is helping to raise the light levels of this Earth in preparation to receive the Savior. If your child was not here, the light level would decrease that much more. (And to think…the Lord has trusted YOU to help sustain that light as his or her earthly steward)!

11) Your child’s love and acceptance of you, and of all people, is pure and holy. There is a simpleness, a tenderness that resides in their little hearts which holds supreme healing powers. (If you look into their eyes long enough and deep enough, you will discovereverything that really matters, and every mystery revealed. Divine Order manifests itself plainly every time one gazes upon a child).

12) Your child (to quote Jesus Christ) is “the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”